What To Do If You Earn More Than Your Man

Some girls just want to be equal, but many women are now earning more money than their man. This new breed of female professionals have been quietly climbing the salary ladder for years while their male counterparts get complacent and lull in lower paid jobs.  Whilst this is all well and good in the work place, it can often be an extremely delicate subject in a relationship. If  you earn more than your man and you sense a bit of tension around the subject – read our handy hints below to keep your relationship thriving while his wallet flounders and yours flourishes.

Bragging

You may be proud of yourself and rightly so, but the most important thing is not to rub your financial success in his face. Bragging about wages will niggle any man, especially if you do it whilst with company. It could be a harmless conversation amongst friends, but to your man it could be very emasculating. The majority of men like to feel like they are the dominant provider in the relationship so if you earn more than them, this might ruin their little ‘fantasy’ and make them feel they aren’t good enough for you.

Communication

Don’t hold off talking about the situation if it’s bothering you. Ask him how he feels about your finances, that way you’ll get a good sense of whether or not it bothers him. He may deny having a problem with your earnings but be weary, even admitting a problem can be damaging to a man’s pride.  If he says it doesn’t bother him and it secretly does, at least your honesty will show him you care about his feelings and are willing to discuss the topic. If he admits that he isn’t comfortable earning less than you then set some goals together and create a career plan.

Team Work

It’s inevitable that one partner in the relationship will earn less than the other and in this day and age, it shouldn’t really matter who it is. Gone are the days of a kept woman and your man should understand this. However, if you work as a team then salaries become less of an issue. Come to agreement about who pays for what in the relationship and if you earn more than your man, there’s no harm in you paying a little extra now and again. If you are building a life with a man who earns less than you and you want to contribute a little extra, explain it may be the other way around in the future and then you’d expect the same in return.

The golden rules are to live within your means, work together as a team, discuss your feelings and don’t turn earning into a competition. Good Luck!