The Perfect Man…
There seems to be two extremes; sickly sweet guys and bitter bad boys, but where are the perfect men?
Approximately 50% single women dream of the perfect fairytale romance – being swept away by prince charming and living happily ever after…but what happens next? I’ll tell you what happens – boredom. Pure, unexplainable, perpetual, boredom. What they don’t tell you in the stories is a few months into the blissful relationship, the Princess grows tired of perfection and has an affair with the antagonist…sad, isn’t it?
So what about bad boys… are they the answer? Well, not exactly. The other 50% of women complain that they’re underappreciated, unloved and undervalued. It seems to me that we always want what we can’t have…when we have a nice guy who’s kind and attentive – we crave the excitement of a bad boy who’ll keep us on our toes, and when we have a bad boy we’re longing for a nice guy to show some tender love and care…why are we never satisfied? Because we are desperately seeking perfection.
Instead, what you need to get to grips with are your man’s pros and cons and make an informed judgement as to which you generally prefer.
One of my best girlfriends, Beth, loves bad boys and has been with a guy for 18 months. In the early stages of the relationship she’d complain how he wouldn’t call or be romantic which left her feeling unfulfilled. It wasn’t until she accepted him for exactly who he was and stopped looking for perfection that she became wholly satisfied in the relationship.
There, I’ve said it. There’s no perfect man and whoever you date won’t tick every box. What you need to decide is whether they tick the most important boxes to you, and then work at it. Relationships aren’t effortless and so shut those story books and give yourself the reality check you deserve!
There seems to be two extremes; sickly sweet guys and bitter bad boys, but where are the perfect men?
Approximately 50% single women dream of the perfect fairytale romance – being swept away by prince charming and living happily ever after…but what happens next? I’ll tell you what happens – boredom. Pure, unexplainable, perpetual, boredom. What they don’t tell you in the stories is a few months into the blissful relationship, the Princess grows tired of perfection and has an affair with the antagonist…sad, isn’t it?
So what about bad boys… are they the answer? Well, not exactly. The other 50% of women complain that they’re underappreciated, unloved and undervalued. It seems to me that we always want what we can’t have…when we have a nice guy who’s kind and attentive – we crave the excitement of a bad boy who’ll keep us on our toes, and when we have a bad boy we’re longing for a nice guy to show some tender love and care…where’s the middle ground?
Ladies, there’s a very short answer – there is no middle ground. That well-balanced, perfect man – he does not exist, because quite frankly no one is… well, perfect!
Instead, what you need to get to grips with are your man’s pros and cons and make an informed judgement as to which you generally prefer.
One of my best girlfriends, Beth, loves bad boys and has been with a guy for 18 months. In the early stages of the relationship she’d complain how he wouldn’t call or be romantic which left her feeling unfulfilled. It wasn’t until she accepted him for exactly who he was and stopped looking for perfection that she became wholly satisfied in the relationship.
There, I’ve said it. There’s no perfect man and whoever you date will never tick every box. What you need to decide is whether they tick the most important boxes to you and then work at it. Relationships aren’t effortless and most require work every single day so shut those story books and give yourself the reality check you deserve!
There seems to be two extremes; sickly sweet guys and bitter bad boys, but where are the perfect men?
Approximately 50% single women dream of the perfect fairytale romance – being swept away by prince charming and living happily ever after…but what happens next? I’ll tell you what happens – boredom. Pure, unexplainable, perpetual, boredom. What they don’t tell you in the stories is a few months into the blissful relationship, the Princess grows tired of perfection and has an affair with the antagonist…sad, isn’t it?
So what about bad boys… are they the answer? Well, not exactly. The other 50% of women complain that they’re underappreciated, unloved and undervalued. It seems to me that we always want what we can’t have…when we have a nice guy who’s kind and attentive – we crave the excitement of a bad boy who’ll keep us on our toes, and when we have a bad boy we’re longing for a nice guy to show some tender love and care…where’s the middle ground?
Ladies, there’s a very short answer – there is no middle ground. That well-balanced, perfect man – he does not exist, because quite frankly no one is… well, perfect!
Instead, what you need to get to grips with are your man’s pros and cons and make an informed judgement as to which you generally prefer.
One of my best girlfriends, Beth, loves bad boys and has been with a guy for 18 months. In the early stages of the relationship she’d complain how he wouldn’t call or be romantic which left her feeling unfulfilled. It wasn’t until she accepted him for exactly who he was and stopped looking for perfection that she became wholly satisfied in the relationship.
There, I’ve said it. There’s no perfect man and whoever you date will never tick every box. What you need to decide is whether they tick the most important boxes to you and then work at it. Relationships aren’t effortless and most require work every single day so shut those story books and give yourself the reality check you deserve!
Approximately 50% single women dream of the perfect fairytale romance – being swept away by prince charming and living happily ever after…but what happens next? I’ll tell you what happens – boredom. Pure, unexplainable, perpetual, boredom. What they don’t tell you in the stories is a few months into the blissful relationship, the Princess grows tired of perfection and has an affair with the antagonist…sad, isn’t it?
So what about bad boys… are they the answer? Well, not exactly. The other 50% of women complain that they’re underappreciated, unloved and undervalued. It seems to me that we always want what we can’t have…when we have a nice guy who’s kind and attentive – we crave the excitement of a bad boy who’ll keep us on our toes, and when we have a bad boy we’re longing for a nice guy to show some tender love and care…where’s the middle ground?
Ladies, there’s a very short answer – there is no middle ground. That well-balanced, perfect man – he does not exist, because quite frankly no one is… well, perfect!
Instead, what you need to get to grips with are your man’s pros and cons and make an informed judgement as to which you generally prefer.
One of my best girlfriends, Beth, loves bad boys and has been with a guy for 18 months. In the early stages of the relationship she’d complain how he wouldn’t call or be romantic which left her feeling unfulfilled. It wasn’t until she accepted him for exactly who he was and stopped looking for perfection that she became wholly satisfied in the relationship.
There, I’ve said it. There’s no perfect man and whoever you date will never tick every box. What you need to decide is whether they tick the most important boxes to you and then work at it. Relationships aren’t effortless and most require work every single day so shut those story books and give yourself the reality check you deserv
There seems to be two extremes; sickly sweet guys and bitter bad boys, but where are the perfect men?
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