Spice Up My Sex Life

Dear Mike,
It’s a little personal but I really would like your advice about my lack of sex life. My boyfriend and I recently moved in together and suddenly we’ve gone from having sex once a day to sometimes once a week! Often I’m so tired after a full day’s work, so when I get in we just want to eat dinner, chill out and then do something that requires no energy at all. He’s no better, often choosing the playstation over an early night.
What’s gone wrong? It used to be so good.
Thanks,
Jasmine, Bournemouth, UK.

Hi Jasmine,

If you had that spark before I have no doubt at all you can’t get it back. When couples move in together they go from seeing each other once or twice a week to every day and this can take its toll on your love life. I’ve got a couple of tips you can try, however silly you think they are, and if sex hasn’t gone back to the way it was within just one week, you can have your money back… even though this advice is free.

Lingerie

Most girls are not overly confident about their body and this can be a huge downer on their sex drive. Now lingerie is not just for men! One of the best ways to take sex from 0 to 100 is paying a visit to Ann Summers. You’ll be amazed how much more sexy you feel in a cute bra, suspenders and all that jazz. Maybe even go for the garter. Lingerie not only is fun and sexy, but it makes you feel more confident about your body. The rule is to keep what you want covered out of sight and flaunt what you don’t mind him seeing.

Massage Oil

It could be from the body shop, a spa, or even Sainsburys basic’s range. (the budget stuff) – to be honest it doesn’t matter. Just leave the bottle where he can find it and he’ll be trading in the Playstation joystick for your body before you know it. The best thing about massages, if they are done well, is they provide all the relaxation you require after a hard day’s work, but turn you both on at the same time. Perfect.

Porn

Ok, so this one takes some getting used to. It can be rather weird at first, but if you have your own house Jasmine who’s going to see? Put on some porn, cheesy, tacky, hot, mischievous, whatever you like and play around with each other while watching. Porn, like lingerie, is not just for men and watching it as a couple turns it into something fun and exciting. It will also probably make you feel really naughty…

Role Play

Finally there is the ultimate sex drive steroid – role playing. You may think it’s been overdone and no one really does it, but pretending to be someone else during sex can be really hot. So next time he’s playing Tomb Raider, get dressed up as Lara Croft. You’ll get so excited and he will be overwhelmed by your confidence. It may be cheesy but your sex life will gain levels in an instant.

Best of luck,

Mike xx