How To Dump A Boyfriend

Knowing exactly  how to dump your boyfriend is hard to say the least and if I’m honest, nothing anyone is going to say will make it totally pain-free. As long as you follow the basics in this little guide though, you’ll be able to let him down gently at least…

1. Face-to-Face

There is absolutely no other way to dump a guy other than to his face. Despite the easier ways of telling him using SMS, social networks etc., if you do you’ll be forever labeled the girl who dumps over the phone/Internet and that certainly doesn’t win you points for dignity. Organise to meet him in private, if you don’t live together then I suggest visiting him – that way you’ll be able to leave when you want to. Sit him down and explain that this is no longer what you want and give him the reasons why. Remain calm throughout the encounter and expect him to either shout or cry…just try and emotionally block yourself off from it either way.

2. Be Honest

The cardinal rule of breaking up with someone is to be totally honest. There’s a fine line between telling white lies to be kind and just spouting out-right B.S. If there are things he’s done wrong or could have improved in the relationship then tell them – you’d be cruel to let him enter his next relationship only to make the same mistake again. Having said that, telling him he’s bad in bed just to hurthis  feelings is also a dumping no-no (even if it’s true).

3. Protect Him

Moving on after you’ve dumped someone is only natural, but doing it too soon after a relationship just makes you look like a total bitch. If you happen to start seeing someone towards the end of your relationship or right after you’ve broken up, try and protect your ex from this for a while as exposing them to you swift recovery will hurt their feelings even more and could also damage your reputation as a decent person…of course if you don’t care all that much perhaps just skip to step 4…

4. Don’t Speak To His Friends

This is a total no go area. You may have his friends and family on Facebook, but after you’ve split up they’re out of bounds unless they make the first move. Talking to his friends can put both you and them in an awkward position and 9 times out of 10, it’ll all just end in tears. Having said that, deleting them from your social networks is also probably not a good idea either as it’ll make you look petty and pathetic. My advice is to just avoid the friends and family minefield unless they come to you.

5. Don’t Communicate With Him

After a break up both you and him will need time to heal emotionally and you can only really do this by not communicating. This can sometimes be difficult when you have mutual friends but you’ve really got to stick with it. Speaking to each other while you’re getting over the relationship is likely to open up a healing wound which isn’t going to benefit either of you. If you dumped him and you’re the one that wants to talk then have you made the right decision?