Office Crush Dilemma

The cute copy man… The suited and booted boss… Even the janitor… An office crush may be harmless at first… but it can turn into a nightmare that can threaten both your job and your relationships outside the office. Here’s my top 5 tips for dealing with an office crush…

Keep it professional

The easiest way to deal with a office crush is to act as professional as possible around them, that way you’re not risking the odd glance of loving affection that might escape you. Keep your head on your work and your poker face on and he’ll be none the wiser.

Don’t be a mug

As a human being we all have the paternal instinct to look after people we care about. But if you’ve ever found yourself picking up your crush’s dry cleaning before work or buying him an extra sandwich at lunch, its not cool. It’s obvious you fancy him and he’s taking advantage of that. It doesn’t matter if you can see past his smiling requests or not – Get real and don’t be a mug!

Eyes down (& I don’t mean on his crotch)

It’s all to easy to slip up and let your eyes wander but this can end up either distracting you even more or put you in a rather awkward position. Yes his arms look good in that top, yes he’s bulging out his jeans – no, if you have any self-respect do not stare!!!

In Your Dreams

Now having an office crush is harmless enough but when you start having “certain” dreams about them it can result in you often finding them even more irresistible each day. Try and not confuse reality with fantasy. Otherwise your job could turn into a nightmare of tortuous flirting that get’s you nowhere. Start finding things that really annoy you about them and you’re sure to soon find them repulsive… ok maybe resistance is futile.

Keep it real

Seriously ask yourself if he feels the same way and whether you being together would ever ruin your working relationship. Then consider that most crushes are nothing more than sexual chemistry that could cost you your respect at work or even your job.

I’m not saying you need to heartlessly crush a harmless crush – just think about how it could feel if you both took it further and then crashed and burnt.