http://www.reallyrich.com/ask/my-boyfriend-hit-me?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=my-boyfriend-hit-me Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:59:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.reallyrich.com/ask/my-boyfriend-hit-me/comment-page-1#comment-1508 Karen C Sun, 27 Jun 2010 14:59:33 +0000 http://www.reallyrich.com/?p=2919#comment-1508 Mike - your advice was precise, spot on accurate, and sensitive...it was respectful and non-judgemental. I live in Aus and have/am going thru exactly what L is going thru right now. I cant thank u enough for your response - it has enlightened me, awakened me....and I must tell my boyfriend that "yes - no matter what tragedy you have been through or suffered...it does not excuse you for using me as a 'punching bag'... Mike – your advice was precise, spot on accurate, and sensitive…it was respectful and non-judgemental. I live in Aus and have/am going thru exactly what L is going thru right now. I cant thank u enough for your response – it has enlightened me, awakened me….and I must tell my boyfriend that “yes – no matter what tragedy you have been through or suffered…it does not excuse you for using me as a ‘punching bag’…

]]> http://www.reallyrich.com/ask/my-boyfriend-hit-me/comment-page-1#comment-167 Mike Fri, 27 Nov 2009 14:32:46 +0000 http://www.reallyrich.com/?p=2919#comment-167 Great advice Nathalie - and thanks for reading x Great advice Nathalie – and thanks for reading x

]]> http://www.reallyrich.com/ask/my-boyfriend-hit-me/comment-page-1#comment-136 Nathalie Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:10:27 +0000 http://www.reallyrich.com/?p=2919#comment-136 You might also want to explain to him how you're feeling, and your decision to stay elsewhere if the abuse contiunes, while he is calm. Make sure that he understands that you're not abandoning him, but that in order to help him, you need to be in a fit state to do so. He is putting you under stress, which makes you act differently, which stresses him, which stresses you, and so on. He must be aware of what he is doing. You have to break this cycle together. Maybe it would help him (and you)to see a bereavment counciler? It sounds as if his mothers death was quite a traumatic experience, having witnessed the accident that led to it. Contact your parents to explain whats going on and make sure your friends are not left in the dark either. If you don't want to tell all your friends, pick one to confide in. I also wish you luck. X You might also want to explain to him how you’re feeling, and your decision to stay elsewhere if the abuse contiunes, while he is calm. Make sure that he understands that you’re not abandoning him, but that in order to help him, you need to be in a fit state to do so. He is putting you under stress, which makes you act differently, which stresses him, which stresses you, and so on. He must be aware of what he is doing. You have to break this cycle together. Maybe it would help him (and you)to see a bereavment counciler? It sounds as if his mothers death was quite a traumatic experience, having witnessed the accident that led to it.
Contact your parents to explain whats going on and make sure your friends are not left in the dark either. If you don’t want to tell all your friends, pick one to confide in.
I also wish you luck.
X

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